How Common Sexualisation of Children and Women is?






The title of this blog might seem odd, and even uncomfortable. However, I really can't seem to ignore how a lot of things children do and everything women are, is sexualised and are often "turn ons" for a lot of people. 

For women, I have noticed that if they are submissive, they get called "good girl" by men. Also, how come people haven't pointed out how weird "Daddy & Baby Girl" thing is? Children, little girls especially, have a disgustingly huge history of being raped my men 3 times their age. The "Daddy & Baby Girl" just makes me cringe to my core as it also ruins the pure relationship fathers and daughters have because these days it's always said in a sexual way. Another obsession I have seen is "bad bitch". When a woman is dominant, outspoken, and can easily hold her own she is called a bad bitch because "good girl" is for submissive woman so the ones who are the opposite, let's objectify them too, right?

There's a quote by Margaret Atwood, and I feel like it perfectly sums up everything I want to say;

“Male fantasies, male fantasies, is everything run by male fantasies? Up on a pedestal or down on your knees, it's all a male fantasy: that you're strong enough to take what they dish out, or else too weak to do anything about it. Even pretending you aren't catering to male fantasies is a male fantasy: pretending you're unseen, pretending you have a life of your own, that you can wash your feet and comb your hair unconscious of the ever-present watcher peering through the keyhole, peering through the keyhole in your own head, if nowhere else. You are a woman with a man inside watching a woman. You are your own voyeur.”

She put it so perfectly that everything a woman does, or is, it's all a male fantasy. This is how normalised and deep-rooted women's sexualisation goes.

It all starts at the very young age, the obsession of teacher and student fantasies, how shorts and skirts are sexy, which is a usual outfit for little girls. The sexualisation of children can be seen in South-East Asian countries a lot as a lot of celebrities wear school outfits and hip-thrusts as dance moves, and not to forget the aegyo, a cute display of affection, but in a more flirtatious way; it's all so problematic and encourages pedophilia because somewhere out there, a person might be having predatory thoughts and it just potentially gives birth to another predator! Don't believe me? I dare you to google "school boy" and "school girl" in different tabs. You'll see how school girls are seen as actually sexy girls, who want to have sex but school boys are seen as.......well regular school boys. 

Society still has a long way to go when it comes to progression and making sure women and children, the most vulnerable beings in the society are safe. The first step is always to acknowledge all these things and then slowly get rid of these mindsets for a healthy society where everyone feels safe and doesn't get reduced to just a sexual object for men!

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